Music critic and blogger Tope Delano, has shared her thoughts on the case of Bilyaminu Bello who was murdered by his wife, Maryam Sanda.
According to Tope, people only judge by the little probably incorrect info they may have gotten, which shouldn’t be.
I didn’t want to talk about this, but with the so many reactions, comments from people who have never found themselves abused emotionally, psychologically, verbally, and physically, I thought hey….it won’t hurt.
I am.not taking sides…does no one any good.
So ‘they say’ this man was stabbed to death by his wife after she found suggestive messages on his phone, yeah? Let’s start here.
How r we sure this is true? Who is that one that lives with them that knows this is the root of their problem? Okay, let’s assume, this is actually true, why did he have em on there in the first place? According to reports, this has actually been an issue in their marriage for a while…so she’s been complaining and allegedly even got physical once, yet you kept on doing same thing and still stayed even after she bit part of your ear off. Why did he stay, why was he allegedly cheating in the first place? He is a muslim, he is allowed to marry as may as 4, why tiptoe around then? Is anyone seeing a case of needing to please or live by approval here? No one knows, he is dead now so…. To the lady….absolutely, I repeat there is absolutely no excuse for hurting another. From the above alleged reasons, I want to believe there was emotional, psychological, verbal abuse before physical reared its head. Yes, I want to believe, I didn’t say that’s the issue….this probably a woman who has issues dealing with anger coupled with the emotional, psychological and verbal and maybe physical abuse she may have over-the years suffered from him, this is not an excuse for her action because really see where it got her.
Emotional, verbal, psychological abuse is real and even deadlier than physical….trust me if it’s physical, your scars can heal and will…but when it becomes every other abuse asides physical, it’s just down get terrible. Let’s not forget both people may have grown up in homes that itself had it’s share of all many of abuse.
Emotional abuse is real and is deadly…I don’t know what happened in their home, none of us lived with them, we can only react from the different tales relayed, but if u r a victim of abuse, get help before things get out of hand.
Who agrees with Tope on this?
Emeh Achanga,the CEO of the Miss Petite Nigeria Brand is a lawyer turned blogger. She is very passionate about writing, with several publications and awards to her credit .She is currently working on publishing a collection of short stories which are basically a memoir about her exciting true experiences.
