A Ghanaian lady has narrated how she was sexually and physically abused by a German man she fell in love with.
@Ewegirl_ disclosed that her ordeal began in 2017 when she made plans to leave Ghana for good and get a job in Germany because she was dating a German at that time. She revealed that her first few months in the country was okay until her visa expired.
The Ghanaian lady said the man she was dating changed and began abusing her physically and sexually. She disclosed that upon escaping from her abuser, she was locked up by German authorities, deported and banned for overstaying her visa.
Read her tweets below;
In 2017 I wanted to leave Ghana for good. My plan was to get work in Germany because I was dating a German man. He managed to book me a ticket to Germany. I even got a visa s3f 😹😹😹😹😹😹😹😹 he was living in Munich (most racist)
— Ama 🍒 (@EweGirl_) February 20, 2020
The way this man made it sound. Like I'd get a job and even if I overstay my visa I will still be ok. He will take care of me. And that wnr. We have a child together I will be able to get permit instantly. And life would be good.
— Ama 🍒 (@EweGirl_) February 20, 2020
I got my visa in 2017 March. Now when it expired. I was not falling pregnant. We were chopping raw but nothing was happening. Him he started to beat me. If I ask for food he beats me. When he goes out of his house alone. He locks me up and leaves me with no key.
— Ama 🍒 (@EweGirl_) February 20, 2020
I was not allowed to make friends. And I couldn't tell my friends in Ghana what I was going through because Facebook di3r I was posting dinners and baecations in my first month in Germany.
— Ama 🍒 (@EweGirl_) February 20, 2020
One day. We were in the U-bahn. That's a train. Chale. I stepped on him by mistake because the train took a turn and I was not holding well. The beating that I got when we got back to his flat. All because of small stepping I did on his shoes. T
— Ama 🍒 (@EweGirl_) February 20, 2020
The sex too was grwaf in the beginning. Don't get me wrong. We were both in love in the start. But after I overstayed my visa. If I ask for sex he declines. But him if he wants sex he is removing my clothes without asking. But I didn't think much of it.
— Ama 🍒 (@EweGirl_) February 20, 2020
I realized I made a mistake when I could not get a job. And when I would ask him for money to huybasic things. Sanitary towels. Soap to wash. When I came to Germany I got 500 euros each month from him. For four months. My visa expired after 90 days. I was not getting anything
— Ama 🍒 (@EweGirl_) February 20, 2020
He used to take me with him to see his friends and family. That also stopped. When someone came over he would tell me to stay in the room.
I started sleeping on the floor. We used to share a bed. But I was on the floor with just a sheet.— Ama 🍒 (@EweGirl_) February 20, 2020
One day I cooked meat for him. It was well done. He threw the meat back at me and told me that I should not cook my bush food for him. In the process of all that I scored a burn on my chest. Which I treated alone.
— Ama 🍒 (@EweGirl_) February 20, 2020
When I had my periods. He would find me on the floor because I could not sleep on his bed. And he would kick me and say how I am lying and that I do not want to work and clean the house. Guys. Fear Germans. Fear them. I used to cry every night.
— Ama 🍒 (@EweGirl_) February 20, 2020
One day. We were out at a restaurant and I order burger and chips with milkshake. He told me that I am fat and ugly and when we got home. He made me strip and stand infront of the mirror. He started pinching my fat and calling me a black bitch.
— Ama 🍒 (@EweGirl_) February 20, 2020
Then one day I wanted to leave. I just said I will go to the airport and tell them to take me back to Ghana. But I couldn't find my passport. He had taken it. That night I asked him to buy for me a flight back to Ghana. He told me that he is not my parent and I should call my mom
— Ama 🍒 (@EweGirl_) February 20, 2020
All this time I had lied to my family that I was enjoying Germany. I could not handle embarrassment and shame. I kept calm.
— Ama 🍒 (@EweGirl_) February 20, 2020
This is now 2018 August. I still had not fallen pregnant. He was also using condom when we had sex to avoid me from getting pregnant. He started to starve me. Everytime I wanted to eat I would have to ask him because the fridge was lock.
— Ama 🍒 (@EweGirl_) February 20, 2020
One day when I was cleaning. I found my passport and I kept it. Chale. When he came from work. I hadn't clean the bathroom. He kicked me out on the streets. I went to a police station and told them that I was kicked out. I show am my passport. They locked me up 😹😹😹😹
— Ama 🍒 (@EweGirl_) February 20, 2020
I gave them his address in Munich. He came to the police cell. He told them that he found me on the streets because I had overstayed and that I had nowhere else to go and he housed me and fed me.
— Ama 🍒 (@EweGirl_) February 20, 2020
Now September 2018. I was put in an asum center in an area called Heidelberg. That's where I waited until I was taken back to Ghana. There was a fine for 4200 euros for me since I overstay for a year and 6 months. Then overstating is a serious crime so I had a case assigned to me
— Ama 🍒 (@EweGirl_) February 20, 2020
Since I had no money to pay. I was banned from the European Union for good. And I am never allowed to enter Germany again.
I am back in Ghana now. And even though I have a ban. I would not advise any African to go to Europe. Even for small hustle.— Ama 🍒 (@EweGirl_) February 20, 2020
They will treat you like garbage. Africans in Germany that I saw just look like they are all illegally there. When I see you people saying you want to go to abrokyire. I just laugh small. It's not what we all think it is.
— Ama 🍒 (@EweGirl_) February 20, 2020
Germans are racist and they ruined my life. But I learn form that mistake and start my own life from the start.
— Ama 🍒 (@EweGirl_) February 20, 2020
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