Ninaki Priddy, Megan Markle’s former bff, has shared some intimate things about the princess to be.
‘Meg literally shone with happiness,’ says Ninaki, who was maid of honour. ‘We’d been like sisters since we were two years old, so I knew she’d always wanted to get married.
‘To see her finally doing that was . . . well, it was a big deal. It was such a moving wedding. I started crying the moment I saw her in her dress. We had the ceremony on the beach. It was so beautiful to watch, beautiful to be a part of. They each wrote their own vows. They loved each other so much.
‘Meg had just finished the first series of Suits [in which she played the bewitching paralegal Rachel Zane]. It was a big part for her — her first full-time role.
‘She’d hustled for years to get there, so that was huge. Trevor was so supportive. He travelled back and forth [from Los Angeles to Toronto, where Suits is filmed] and there was a lot of Skyping and FaceTiming going on.
‘It was an exciting time. This was the man she wanted to have children with.’
Fast forward six years. That marriage is over and Meghan has just become engaged to Prince Harry. Many of the friends who celebrated with the newlyweds on that beach are no longer speaking to Meghan
Ninaki says her own falling out with Meghan came after she disapproved of the manner of Meghan’s break-up from Trevor.
But there is no doubt Ninaki misses Meghan as she tells the story of their friendship.
The girls were inseparable from their first days at Hollywood’s private Little Red School House, which they both joined at the age of two, before moving on together at 11 to the Immaculate Heart girls’ high school in Los Angeles.
Their extraordinary bond spanned 31 years of sleepovers, a holiday in Europe as 15-year-olds — including a picture opportunity for Ninaki and Meghan outside Buckingham Palace — and road trips across the United States.
They supported each other through their parents’ acrimonious divorces and their own love affairs. Together, they shared their secrets and dreams as each of them set out to make their mark upon the world.
Ninaki runs her fingers over a photograph of Meghan in a tiny yellow polka dot bikini taken the day before she made those wedding vows to Trevor, now 41.
‘Look at her. She was so ecstatic,’ Ninaki smiles fondly. Then her face hardens. ‘The person I knew is not there any more,’ she says. ‘Meg used to tell me she couldn’t imagine a life without Trevor. She said if anything were to happen to him she wouldn’t be able to go on.
‘He cherished her, too. You should have seen the way he used to hold her face in his hands. We all felt he was her eternal love.
‘It was such a shock when she told me they were getting divorced. After about three seasons of Suits, she called me and said she wanted me to know because it was going to come out in the papers.
‘I knew they fought sometimes, but it wasn’t anything huge. The only obstacle was the distance because she was living in Toronto and Trevor was based in LA.
‘But I thought that they were manoeuvring through it as best they could. Trevor would take his work to Canada to be with her and run his office remotely.
‘I wasn’t aware there were any problems in the marriage.’
She shrugs. ‘I had to accept what she said, but then . . .’
Ninaki hesitates. She has loved Meghan dearly for most of her life and is not the sort of person to easily betray somebody.
Choosing her words carefully, Ninaki says she no longer recognizes the girl with whom she shared her childhood.
‘A month after the divorce, I wanted to see how Trevor was doing,’ says Ninaki. ‘We met and talked. It’s not up to me to speak for Trevor, but I know he was travelling to Toronto every few weeks and would have walked the earth to make their marriage work.
‘I don’t believe she gave him enough of an opportunity. I think there was an element of “out of sight, out of mind” for Meghan.
‘The way she handled it, Trevor definitely had the rug pulled out from under him. He was hurt.’
Meghan reportedly began dating dashing celebrity chef Cory Vitiello who also lives in Toronto, in 2014, a few months after her separation from Trevor.
‘I tried to get details from her, but she wouldn’t tell me. What came to light after Trevor and I spoke ended my friendship with Meghan. I think everybody who knew them both was in shock.
‘All I can say now is that I think Meghan was calculated — very calculated — in the way she handled people and relationships. She is very strategic in the way she cultivates circles of friends. Once she decides you’re not part of her life, she can be very cold.
‘It’s this shutdown mechanism she has. There’s nothing to negotiate. She’s made her decision and that’s it.’
All I can say now is that I think Meghan was calculated — very calculated — in the way she handled people and relationships. She is very strategic in the way she cultivates circles of friends
Ninaki says this not with malice, but sadness, for she and Meghan were ‘like sisters’ for decades.
Her earliest memory is of Meghan reaching out to touch her hair. ‘She loved it because it was so long and straight. She had this amazing curly mane. I always cherished her hair and she mine.’
Ninaki smiles as she thumbs through photographs of the two of them on stage at an age when they were too young for joined-up writing, let alone to sign autographs.
‘Meg always wanted to be famous,’ says Ninaki. ‘She just loved to be the centre of attention. We used to imagine her receiving an Oscar. She used to practise announcing herself.
‘In a way, she was nurtured on a stage. She knew no other life. Her dad, Tom [a lighting engineer], was a great coach in that respect. He’d take photos of her on stage right from a young age.
Her mum, Doria, was very cool. She was this free spirit who’d dance around the house telling Meg to loosen up. She’d say: “You’ve got to have fun, but keep working at it.” Meg was the star with her parents.
‘She was tough, too. If you rubbed her up the wrong way, she’d make it known with the silent treatment. There was a time, when we were about seven, and I’d collected a bunch of insects. She didn’t want to play with them.
‘We spent two hours sitting at opposite ends of the garden with our backs to each other in silence. I’d always be the first to apologise. I just wanted to be besties again. She was stubborn. She digs her heels in the ground.’
Today, Ninaki is a stylish young woman who works as a designer in LA. She oscillates between raging against Meghan and feeling a deep visceral hurt.
‘We had the kind of love you have for a sister. The end of our friendship was like a death,’ she says. ‘I mourned it for quite a while.
‘Even now I’ll pass by a magazine stand and see a face staring out at me that was such a big part of my life.
‘It was always Niki and Meg. We were so close-knit we came as a two,’ says Nikani. ‘We were both honorary daughters in each other’s homes. We were like family.’
‘Family’ is a word that crops up throughout this interview, which provides the most revealing insight to date into the woman who’s captured Prince Harry’s heart.
‘The idea of having a family was something Meg very much wanted, particularly because she was from a family that felt very disjointed,’ says Ninaki. ‘I think when you’re an only child in that situation your friends do become your family.’
Trevor became part of that family, too. For this was no brief, marry-in-haste-repent-at-leisure fling, but a committed ten-year relationship; one that also gave Meghan something of a helping hand in her acting career.
Meghan and Trevor met within 18 months of her graduating from Northwestern University with a degree in theatre and international studies. She was 23. Trevor, a tall, handsome man, was five years her senior and already flourishing in the film industry.
As well as keeping all things domestic well ordered, Ninaki says Meghan possessed incredible powers of diplomacy. She says Meghan learned from a young age to keep the peace between her parents following their divorce.
Ninaki continues: ‘She is very poised. A natural mediator. For almost as long as I knew Meghan, her parents weren’t together. It could be hard for her. Sometimes she felt she had to pick sides. She was always trying to make sure each of them was happy.’
Ninaki says she has always admired Meghan for handling her parents so skilfully from such a young age.
‘She’d have to relay messages. It was literally stuff like, “Tell your mother . . .” or “Tell your father . . .” Controlling her emotions is something she learnt back then.’
Meghan has always maintained her parents’ separation was about as easy as a divorce can be for a child. But Ninaki, who spent many childhood weekends with Meghan, recalls things differently.
‘Sometimes, one parent needed a little more attention, so Meghan would devote herself to that parent,’ she says.
‘When she was younger, she spent most of her time with Doria. Doria used to dance around the house and have girlie evenings with us. Then, when Meg got to Junior High — around 13 or 14 — she began living with her dad.
‘Tom allowed her more space. Doria was very mothering. She set more boundaries. Tom let us get away with things. He provided a less strict household.
‘As a teenager, who doesn’t want that? But as Meg got older she had to parent Tom a little more and she couldn’t do that.’
Ninaki refuses to elaborate further on Meghan’s father or their relationship. Today, he lives in Mexico and has not featured in the story of her romance with Prince Harry.
‘I think she’s protecting him,’ is all Ninaki will add.
Despite being the child of divorced parents, Ninaki says Meghan always wanted a family of her own. ‘She was definitely looking forward to having children. She really wanted to be a mum. She’d see a baby and just . . .’ Ninaki hugs an imaginary child to her breast.
She continues: ‘Trevor asked her to marry him the year before Suits. They were on holiday in Belize, I think. She called me immediately. She was ecstatic and sent me some beautiful pictures.
‘Meghan came to show me the ring when she got home and was so excited. She asked me to be maid of honour. We were hugging each other and crying.
Then, after the wedding, it was like a light switched off. There’s Meghan Before Fame and Meghan After Fame. After three seasons of Suits, she called me to say the marriage was over.
‘Maybe she had started to change before then, but I was refusing to see it. The tone of her voice, her mannerisms, the way she laughed didn’t seem real to me any more.
‘Even by season two of Suits, she was turning down lunch with us because she said she’d be recognised. I felt if I questioned her behaviour, I’d be left on the outside. Sometimes the truth is not always what you want, is it?
‘Her time became increasingly important. When she was in town, she’d want you to drop everything to see her. If I was busy, it would be, “Why don’t you want to see me? I’m here. Let’s hang out!”
‘There were instances when I felt she developed a sense of entitlement because she was on the show. The breaking point for me came when she wanted to adopt a dog.
‘She’d fallen in love with it, but found someone else wanted the dog, too. So she emailed the pet adoption people and explained how she could provide a great life for it.
‘She spoke of what a great time the dog would have in the Suits Family. I felt that she was playing the Suits card to try to get what she wanted.
‘She included me and the other bridesmaids in the email chain because she wanted our moral support, I think.
‘I didn’t respond to it. It left a sour taste in my mouth. We began to talk less. It was shortly after that I spoke to Trevor about the divorce.
‘I phoned Meghan to speak about it, but she wouldn’t confide in me. It was obvious to me she wasn’t the friend I’d grown up with any more. She had a new circle of friends.’
The friendship ended before Meghan began seeing Prince Harry. All Ninaki has heard about it is gossip. But she has her own views on the life path that Meghan has chosen.
‘I think it’s a very fanciful dream to believe that you just walk into a Prince Charming.
‘I can’t remember exactly when this was, but she was married to Trevor and starring in Suits. She mentioned about wanting to go to London a couple of times.
‘I wasn’t shocked or even surprised to hear about Prince Harry. I know she used to love The Princess Diaries — films about a commoner who becomes part of a Royal Family. She was very taken with that idea.’
On how Trevor is now;
‘It took a long time, but he’s put it in the past now,’ she says. ‘Of course, everyone’s looking at him to see how he’s reacting since the engagement has been announced, but I think he’s handling it quite well.
So well, in fact, he is reportedly working on a film about a girl who is whisked away by a handsome prince. True? Ninaki smiles enigmatically. ‘Trevor is my family now. We’re still friends.’
Emeh Achanga,the CEO of the Miss Petite Nigeria Brand is a lawyer turned blogger. She is very passionate about writing, with several publications and awards to her credit .She is currently working on publishing a collection of short stories which are basically a memoir about her exciting true experiences.
